For Shame!

I am a pretty open minded person when it comes to discipline. I've tried many different tactics with my girls, and sometimes I realize too late that I'm doing it wrong. Sometimes I embrace a method that works like a charm. Oddly, I have found that my oldest responds to communication remarkably well, while my younger daughter does not quite understand our conversations just yet and is more impacted by a time out. I have used spanking before, and found it to be quite ineffective. So while I personally am not against it, I very rarely use it because it just doesn't work with my children.
But of all the "discipline" methods I have seen and tried, there is one that infuriates me beyond belief.
Child shaming.
I do not care how funny you think it is to post a picture of your child holding a sign proclaiming what they've done wrong. It's not. In fact, posting a picture of your teenager holding a sign about smoking pot/failing grades/breaking curfew is not even effective in my opinion. Why? Because yes, you are proclaiming what he/she did wrong to embarrass them into better behavior, but you are also proclaiming to the world YOUR shortcomings. Which in my opinion, some parent deserve.

How is posting a humiliating picture of your child confessing to a crime going to change their behavior? Your child is failing school? Why are YOU taking more time to help him/her learn, finding better study methods, monitoring their work or at the very least, investing in a tutor? Your child was doing drugs? Right, better to have them pose with a cardboard sign instead of explaining to them the risks, confiscating the item and again Monitoring their behavior. They broke curfew? Yes, it is definitely more appropriate to take a picture of them locked out on the porch instead of finding out where they are, then confiscating their phone/privileges/means of transportation.
Maybe I just remember how it felt to only be allowed to sit at the kitchen table (in a spot where I could not see the t.v.) studying for a mandated amount of time PER subject (because when my grades suffered I brought home every book from every subject). I remember only being allowed to read said school books, or my BIBLE, nothing fun or frivolous. I lost my phone, my music, my computer, my books, everything that could be enjoyed. And it worked. My parents didn't have to take a picture of me holding a sign stating my wrongdoings.
Had they done something like that, let me tell you what would have happened. I would have resented them. I would not have trusted them, or respected them. That last one is the biggest. Because sure, every teenager resents or even feels like they hate their parents at some point or another. But I always knew deep down that I deserved the punishment I was getting. And I respected that.
Ok, so maybe I respect it more now as an adult than I did as a teen. But still. You won't catch me publicly humiliating my children to get a point across. Because in the long run, all that does is kill their self esteem, kill their relationship with me, and kill their sense of self worth.
Or worse, they might think it's funny too, and that is just ineffective.